How to plan a bachelorette party? Planning a bachelorette party for a friend is fun, but takes a lot of time and planning ahead if you want everything to go by the book. That’s why I’ve put together a few pointers on how I planned Steph’s party with two of her dearest friends.
How we did it:
5-6 months before the wedding we sat down and created a facebook event where we invited Steph’s girlfriends and familiy. We proposed 3 dates that the girls could choose from and when they all had given their feedback, we picked the day that most of the girls could join.
After we set a date we started planning and in order to do so, we had to agree on a budget. (In Denmark it is common that every girl attending a bachelorette party pays a fixed amount of money for participating. The money usually covers breakfeast, lunch, dinner, drinks throughout the day and activities). Once we agreed on the budget, we started brainstorming activites that were in the spirit of Steph – and we had so much fun doing it. We talked about how Steph was as a friend, what she liked, what she didn’t like and which theme we thought would be perfect for the party. We quickly agreed that Steph loves wining and dining, and therefore we booked a biiiig table in a restaurant called Madklubben Bistro De-Luxe that is located in the heart of Copenhagen near Kongens Nytorv. Their prices are fair (we got 3 courses for 200 kr.) and their food is actually really good.
Once our minds were set on the restaurant we began talking activities. We google’d all sorts of fun activities and stumbled upon FunBomberz. An activity where we had to play soccer in “giant- beach-ball-looking” outfits. We booked the activity several months ahead, but the activity was almost completely booked, and we had to chose between the time slots 10:30-11:30 am or 5-6 pm. We chose the early time slot.
After FunBomberz we planned that Steph should have her own activity – wake boarding. We booked a slot at Copenhagen Cable Park in Copenhagen S (the same part of town, where we booked FunBomberz). After this activity we planned a cocktail event in the center of Copenhagen in the intimate cocktail bar called Ourselves Alone. Here we would join up in teams and compete against each other in making the best cocktail. (Steph LOVES cocktails. Everything from drinking them to making them herself) and she’s also really competitive.
After this event the plan was to go for dinner, leaving the restaurant at 10 pm to go to our last event of the evening. A little preparty at a club called “Molly” where the bride to be would be surprised by a special guest (guess who?! Here’s a hint. “Dancing sailor”).
All in all – we wanted to plan a bachelorette party that was in the spirit of our bride to be, which is essentially what the day is all about: good friends meeting up, having a blast and throwing the bride to be a hell of a party before her big day.
Some small recommendations:
Remember your schedule: and don’t be too overambitious. Remember how much time you have set off for each activity + the time it takes getting there. Don’t rush, because stressing will ruin the mood and above all – the important thing is to have fun.
Be sure to prepare a good excuse for stealing the bride away: In Denmark it is very common to surprise the bride to be on the day of her bachelorette party. If you want to do the same, make sure that you have a good excuse planned, so the bride to be won’t suspect a thing. (It’s harder than it sounds).
Our excuse was to invite her to a friends birthday brunch.
Try a theme: On our of our “meetings” before the bachelorette party one of the girls suggested incorporating a theme into the day. So we did. We brainstormed about everything from 90’s party to Lady Gaga, Gwen Stephanie (Steph loved her during her teens) and much more. We settled on a “Barbie-theme”, bought a long blonde wig for Steph, and short blonde wigs for the rest of us. We created little clues for her, that she got right before going to the next activity – and we had so much fun with it.
We also bought pink ballons that we plastered with Barbie.
And Steph? She was thrilled.
A sandwhich can be tasty too: Our lunch for the day consisted of black bread from the local bakery with parma ham (chicken or tuna salade), mozzarella cheese and pesto. We put the food in a cooler, so that it would stay fresh. Eventhough sandwhiches might sound a bit boring, we bought some great tasting and quality ingredients, which made them quite delicious. (So the girls said).
Make the little things count: We created a homemade party game, where Steph had to compete against all her friends in different activities. All the girls had to write down who they thought would win each challenge, and the winner would get a little beauty goodie bag with Vichy products. Steph were confident that she would win them all, and she fought ’till her last breath (wining 4/13).
We played “who can eat 3 cream puffs the fastest”, “who can guzzle a beer the quickest only using a straw”, “who can eat a banana the fastest WITHOUT using hands” and much more. We had a blast!
Something to remember:
– A few days before the bachelorette party write a message (text, facebook or whatever media you choose to use), to the girls, telling them what to bring with them. For example: a towel for bathing after an activity, bikini, running shoes, red lipstick – you name it.
– Remember clothes, shoes and make-up for the bride to be (a good idea is to talk to the groom and make sure, that he can help you get the stuff you need. The bride might need running shoes too, some stilettos, a dress etc.
– Don’t forget to bring a camera. It’s convenient taking pictures with your smartphone, but having a “real” camera with you is also a good idea. The pictures can be used afterwards as a little personal gift for the bride to be (and trust me – she’ll love it. Steph certainly did).
– Make a list with adresses, names, phone numbers and a schedule for the activities. Are you several people “in charge of planning” then give a list to each of you, so you can help each other following the schedule.
– If some of your activities depend on the weather, make sure you have a plan B (especially if you live in Denmark). You might not need it, but you will be thankful that you made one just in case.
– Have enough beverages. It’s not fun to run out.
– The more the merrier. Plan the bachelorette party with a bunch of girls (at least the close ones) and make sure the bride to be gets a day to remember. Are you the only one planning, you will have a lot of responsibilities to make everything go as planned, and it’s much more fun helping each other out. That way you can enjoy the day more and don’t be stressed out. Another positive thing about it is, that some of the other girlfriends knows the bride to be in ways you might not, which will ultimately result in more ideas to pick from.
That was a few pointers from me, that I hope can be helpful when you need to plan a bachelorette party. And one last thing. Are you unsure if an actitivity is in the spirit of the bride – it probably isn’t. Make sure to do something else, where you are certain that she will have fun and feel comfortable (eventhough the activity might be out of her (usual) comfortzone).
Have fun planning!